Commitment is an extraordinary force in everyone’s lives, as it has the power to overcome emotions and habits, and almost anything that could stop us from doing something.

There is nothing more profound in a relationship than commitment; it is the ultimate spiritual journey that you both take together. Loving and caring for someone, having an open heart, you will be transforming yourself, evolving along your path and learning powerful lessons about yourself, you might never have thought possible.

Most than often, when launching into a relationship you let your emotions take control, without thinking what true commitment is really about. Sharing your life with someone else is not only based on love, if not also on compromising and finding a way that works for both, not only yourself.

The key to having a successful and committed relationship is being able to entirely dialogue with your partner. Just to give you an example of what Í mean when I say that, think about the relationship you had with your family: was your love relationship with them fulfilled, and if so, do you have a role model of what love feels like or even looks like?

We all feel love as something strong, something that sweeps us off our feet, and feels so so good. This may be a natural, wonderful part of a relationship, but the true test of this breath-taking feeling, comes from your willingness to explore things with the other one, and not being afraid to change for him or her.

By that, I mean sharing the delights of doing things together, as well as coming to terms with one another when you say YES and he says NO.

A “committed relationship” is one where both partners agree that they are together, not separate, and are making a lot of compromises to make the relationship work: agreeing on ways to work problems out, and not just thinking of breaking up every time one pops up, as they always do in relationships.

A commitment is where two people continue to work on and also invest in their own relationship, so that it works out and they feel right being together. While there may be many kinds of relationships,-separate but together, living together, being married, etc, the foundation they all share is love and respect of one another.

In a committed relationship, your partner’s needs come first place, in your actions, and you treat your relationship and the one you love, with respect, consideration and courtesy, while sharing the same path.   For more relationship advice click here.

Have you long been looking for those romantic date ideas that will impress your partner? So, how can you have a romantic date without feeling or looking stupid? Don’t worry about that! If your partner cares for you, any attempt to look romantic will be ten times seen as truly romantic, if it comes from the inside.

So, here you have the most successful ideas for an unforgettable and romantic date:

• Make up a romantic day, in a month and pretend everyone knows about it and is taking advantage to celebrate it. Indulge in it and use it as you please.
• Put a thick, fluffy blanket on the floor and have a romantic movie night, with comfortable pillows, candles, and his or her favorite movie. Do not forget to bring the wine and some delicious treats. Unplug the telephones and pull the curtains. And watch the movie, do not try anything till you see some signs of his or her wish to do that himself or herself.
• Drive up to a romantic place in the countryside, you have always liked. Play some romantic CD’s and try to pick out a romantic spot before this moment, and stop there for a while. Bring some snacks and drinks. Watch the sun set, or even check the calendar for full moon. You can have a spectacular and romantic memory out in the nature.
• Make a bonfire on the beach. This is always romantic. Don’t forget the cozy blanket and some champagne.
• Organize a sunset cruse on a charter small sailboat. Do not forget the fluffy blankets, some flashlights and even some poetry books.
• Take him or her to a delicious ice cream or banana split, and share it in an intimate, romantic setting, or organize a picnic in the middle of your living room.
• Go on night camp out. Choose a hike that is not too difficult and surprise him or her by spending a day and night alone, and faraway from the city.
• Practice learning some massage, buy some massage oil and treat him or her with soft music and a romantic massage.
• Make a candle lit dinner in your backyard or terrace.

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Having fun while dating is more than you could ask for, when meeting a person for the first time. If you both had fun, the date has been a success, and you can do it again, because you feel good in each other’s company.

So, let’s see how we can come up with fun ideas for a date with a special someone. It can be a first date, or a getting together between couples, just for having some fun, and this is what you are sure to have, by reading this.

Your creative imagination may turn out to pay out more, than a few hundred dollars on a fancy restaurant would. So, here you are:

·         doing something neither of you has ever done before together, such as taking up sports classes, and turn it into a surprise date, especially if she or he likes dancing.

·          scheduling a picnic while having previously prepared something light to eat, and some drinks, and celebrating some event you made up, like celebrating the birds returning home after a long trip, or any other funny celebration you can make up.

·         Touring your own town, as boring as it may sound like, try to look at things you were not noticing before, and try to find interesting, even odd things to talk about in what you see.

·         Moving your TV  into your garage and pull your car inside, to watch his or her favorite movie.  Invite your partner to a drive-in-movie. Make sure you have the remote on you, when you are back at your house, and closing the garage door. Also make sure you have some fresh popcorn and candy and enjoy the movie.

·         Organizing a trip for taking pictures. Search for funny things to take pictures of, on the beach, mountain, or any other place you can go to. Take lots of pictures then decide which are the best.?

·         Organizing a Frisbee game by night, at the beach, buy two glow in the dark sticks and one frisbee the kind that lights up when thrown. Now plan a night-time date to the beach with your partner. On the beach, spread apart, and throw them , trying to catch them. It’s a lot of fun and you can also throw the glow sticks into the ocean, as the waves will bring them back to you, while glow in the water will be great to watch.

Making an impression on your date has to do with remembering insignificant things about the color they like, movie, clothes, music, etc, and use them to your advantage, so as to show you care about what they like. You can even plan a whole date, based on what she or he likes. What can be more fun than that?  To find out how to be irresistible to men and women click here.

“What an idiot….he has no idea what to say to me anymore…I think I’ll invent and excuse and just get rid of him.”

Is this what you think she’s thinking about you? I am sure that not rare were the times when you found yourself in this situation, having run out of nice lines that have always worked, and feeling that she/he must think you are a total idiot, because “I have kept silent for over 5 minutes now”.

Meeting people for the first time can be an enjoyable experience, especially when you understand if you understand all about other people and how they like to communicate talk about, and first of all listen.

My first tip for you, is not to put yourself under pressure to talk, and repeat to yourself: “What should I talk about? What shall I say? I will make a complete fool out of myself”.

So, don’t start thinking about what you’ll say, by repeating the ME, ME, Me in your head. By doing this, you will not focus on getting to know the other person, because you are thinking about YOU, YOU, YOU! This is not the way to start communicating. You will just take turns talking.

So, here’s what to do:

·         BECOME AN EXPERT LISTENER

This means that the other person is doing most of the talking. You’ll see that your worries will go away. And here is how you get the other to tell you about them:

 “What are YOU currently doing??” “Do YOU enjoy it?” “Tell me about this…..” “I hear YOU have been doing this……”

“I love YOUR job description, what’s the best thing YOU love about your work?”; “I love YOUR jacket, where did you get it from?

Ask question to get to know them and then ask some more questions, and then some more! He or she will love you for it!

·         ASK FOR THEIR OWN OPINIONS

Ask these questions and your first date could go on for hours on end:

“What do you think of …….?” “What is your opinion on………? Have you heard about what happened to…Isn’t he/she……?”  Respect their opinions, without getting into an argument.

Wait until they ask about you and then be brief and make them ask more questions- this means they have too, been listening and are indeed interested in what more you have to say. Make connections to what the other person has said about them- this will show you remember what they told you.

If your date and you enjoy being together all will run smoothly, and once you get some laughter, you know it’s been a success. GOOD LUCK!  Fore more information on being irresistible to the opposite sex click here.

Every woman in love with somebody and seriously thinks of a commitment often finds herself wondering: “Does he love me? Does he really mean it?” But how can you know if he means that and respects you enough? If you want to discover the truth to this question, I will suggest a few ways that I hope will help you.

·         Is he proud of being with you? He should, if he truly loves you. Not taking you to see his family, or would rather go out alone with his friends without also inviting you, then some doubts may arise, about whether or not he loves you;

·         Does he take time from his favorite things to be with you?  This way, it’s easy to see if he loves you- loving to have you around, and watch you do his favorite things, or do what you like, with you, and I am not only talking about sex, here.

·          Does he buy you material gifts, or gifts that really mean something? Buying something expensive is not hard for a guy, but often, the smaller gifts are much more meaningful than big, expensive ones. If he truly loves you, then he will show it to you through the emotional value of the things he gets you;

·          How does he say the 3 magic words? “I LOVE YOU” It’s not a mystery that men lie about this, and know how to say, for you to fall for it. But, hey, we girls can tell the difference. If he just says that, before hopping into bed, or only as an answer to your I LOVE YOU, especially when you say it first, it might give you an answer. On the other hand, it may be true that some guys are naturally introverted, meaning they keep their emotions to themselves, but this too, can be  a perfect method for you to judge his feelings for you;

·          Does he talk of your future together? A guy who loves you for real more than probably holds some pictures of your future together; and he will let you in his thoughts, by what he says. Even if this does not YET mean he is proposing to you, but this is the path leading to that. He has you in his future, which means he envisions some time to spend by your side. You don’t want to have that with someone you don’t love, right?

So, if you’re still wondering “Does He Love Me?”, take some more time to explore this 5 ways; they can tell you a lot about your relationship, and whether or not he really means it when he says I LOVE YOU….For more information click here.

I hope you agree that men aren’t always easy to figure out, and as women, we are guilty of wishing to keep contact with the man we are dating, as often as possible. This of course means that we love it when he calls us, sends us an SMS, or e-mail.

But, unfortunately it can happen to be very disappointed of having long waited for that precious phone call, not leaving the house, so as not to miss it, and never receiving it. Well, if he told you he was going to call you, and keep in touch with you, but this does not happen, it does not mean he cares less. It just means he is not as communicative as you would like him to be, or as you thought he were.

Now, if he has not called you, even when he said he would, DO NOT point it out to him, every chance you get. This is what wives do when he forgot to remove his dirty socks from underneath the bed, even if he said he would.

When a woman repeatedly points out to a guy, what he failed to do what, even when he said he would, he will

· Start to feel like a failure.

· Not do it, at all, just like children do not do something when they are told to.

And let me tell you that men are just like kids, but, surprisingly, would not like to be viewed as failures by the women they love.

So, if you’ve mentioned it once, to him, and he still cannot find 5 minutes to call you even when he promises, you need to change your approach.

As difficult as this may be for some, the best thing you can do under the circumstance, is not call him, meaning not calling him when he said he’d call.

Still no call from him? Do not rush to the phone. It may be he’s just forgotten to call or he’s wrapped up in work.

As soon as the man in your life figures out that he hasn’t spoken to you for some time, he’ll call. At this point, be very careful how you greet him, so do not jump right on, and ask him questions about where he has been, and why has he not called, as he is not going to call you twice to hear the same thing. He would say he has been busy, possibly apologize, and you can say that too. He does not have to know the truth.

If you do not call, and if he is interested in you, he will, sooner or later. All it takes is a little willpower to not call him, and patience. Don’t be the one to make first contact, if he has not called.  For more information click here.

How to Make a Dud Relationship More Sexually Fulfilling: A Guide for Women
By Naweko San-Joyz

You want more intimacy and caressing; he wants that porn-star he watched last night on HBO. How can you reconcile two distinct sexual desires in one bedroom?

For months, I used to yell at my lover for not being attentive to my sexual yens. I’d shriek, “Our sex life is too predictable and… foreplay, you don’t even know what that is anymore.”

Realizing that perpetual bitching did zilch for my carnal yearnings, I turned to the most libelous of places- Hollywood- for help.

“What’s Hollywood got to do with sex,” you snort? Everything. See, whether we admit it to ourselves or not, those tear-jerking chick-flicks that paint love and everlasting sex as the ideal scenario have lasting effects on impressionable, not to mention temperamental women like us.

Hollywood presents the good sex-life and sometimes, you want a taste of that good sex life don’t you? I used to blame my lover for not doing his part to make sweltering sex and multi-orgasms a reality for me.

Now I’ve realized that if I want more than the five-minute bed work over that my lover likes to call “doing it”, I have to be somewhat of an actress myself.

In short, I give my lover what he wants- a new mysterious lover that he’s never met- and I get what I want- hot, tantalizing love-making that lasts way more than five minutes with lots of foreplay.

How can you get in on this type of action? It’s easy when you use your imagination and follow the principles of giving a little in order to get a lot.

Here’s my recipe for turning my bedroom into a love den.

1. Create your sexual fantasy

2. Become the star of your sexual fantasy

3. Play out this sexual fantasy for your lover

1. Creating your sexual fantasy

If you watch the daily soaps, creating your sexual fantasy becomes a no-brainer. There’s the cute boat boy at the yacht-club, the cable guy with bulging muscles that drops in to fix the tube, and then there’s Mister Casanova that can play your body like a cello and turn you into a boudoir soprano.

Picking your ideal man

Once you have your ideal fantasy man in mind, now you need to figure out what kind of woman he’s after and role-play this lady. Lets say that the yacht-club cutie is looking for a chick in some tight, short white skirt, with a breast clinging top.

Next, what’s the cable hunk in the mood for- a nerdy looking chick with a bob and bifocals that she can toss in an instant, just to reveal her sexy twin- the inner Playgirl? And then we have Mister Casanova, he’ll probably do anything with a vagina so all imagining is left up to you.

2. Become the star of your sexual fantasy

Here’s the super fun part. We all have an inner nympho so let her free. This inner sex kitten can take on limitless incarnations, like the sexy teacher, the dominatrix, the hooker and or the innocent chick nursing an Electra complex. You can switch your Venus persona as often as you change your thongs.

Notwithstanding, if you come up dry on these sexual fantasies, check out Nancy Friday’s “Secret Garden”, she’ll whet, if not corrupt your erotic nature.

3. Play out this sexual fantasy for your lover

If there was ever not a time to be bashful it’s when you’re asking for a raise and when you’re having sex. Remember the first time, with every new guy. Wasn’t it great!

That greatness comes from all of the sexual improvisation. You were new to your lover and your lover was new to you- remember this as you star in your real-life sexual fantasy.

Repeat this to yourself, “I am new to my lover and my lover is new to me.” Repeat this even if you’ve slept with this guy a hundred times.

So now as you’re playing the teacher, dominatrix or virgin for your lover, consider this foreplay.

Preparing for dulcet foreplay

1. Dress the part. An essential key to looking like a new lover, is dressing like one. In fact, the more odd your sexual character, and thus costume, the better. This does not mean that you go out and spend a fortune on new clothes. Just wear the ones you already have in your own closet, or you lover’s closet, in a new way. For example, put on a cocktail dress, a bathing suite, or even make a suite out of newspapers.

In all reality, your lover does not care about what you look like, what matters is the sexual intrigue you create. When you do something completely out of left field it creates mystery and sexual interest.

2. Act the part. My favorite act for foreplay is dancing. When dancing, I let myself go and focus exclusively on my lover, as if he is the only person in the entire world. Not matter what sexual fantasy I’m acting out, my lover is the audience, the only audience, and I make sure he knows it.

To illustrate acting the part, a few weeks ago, I invented the cave woman fantasy. It’s truly wild, and the costume? It’s just some old worn out clothes that I should have trashed but found better uses for. The cave woman crawls all over the floor and uncontrollably attacks her lover with kisses.

Another sexual star is the teacher. In her role, the teacher sits her lover in a chair and points out some homework that has not been done. You can make the homework the sexual fantasies that you want fulfilled. And each time you rant off an unfulfilled assignment, you tap your lover with a ruler. This constant slapping with the ruler will build a lot of useful sexual tension. Don’t let it go to waste.

3.Enjoy each moment. If you want stellar sex, stay in the moment. You stay in the moment when you have absolutely no clue what’s going to happen next. But more importantly, you stay in the moment when you focus exclusively on one thing. In this case, focus your intentions exclusively on your lover.

It may appear that you are denying yourself if you focus on your lover. You’re not. Let the attention that you give to your lover arouse you. That way, you build a love loop. You arouse your lover and his enticed response arouses you, you continue to arouse him and the cycle continues.

Alas, one man’s aphrodisiac is another man’s… well he’s probably just impotent. Sometimes your rendition of a sexual fantasy may seem like pure nonsense to your lover, then again it could be worthy of a Grammy in the eyes of your lover. The key is, change your sexual fantasies often, as often as you’d like to have fulfilling lovemaking.

This way you’ll make your bedroom the concupiscent envy of all Hollywood.

Health author and Stanford University graduate Naweko San-Joyz lovingly writes from her home in San Diego. Her works include Acne Messages: Crack the Code of Your Zits and Say Goodbye to Acne (ISBN: 0974912204) and Skinny Fat Chicks, Why We’re Still Not Getting This Dieting Thing (ISBN: 0974912212). Naweko created the Noixia philosophy to help people enhance their lives by connecting with their inner-mysteries and inner-selves. Her works take often over-looked, yet viable research and transforms in into practical tools that people can use to improve their health. Get useful, but too often ignored women’s health news by visiting http://www.Noixia.com, Where Beauty Means Health.

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• He’s reluctant to talk on the phone in front of you.

Does he leave the room when he takes a phone call? Yeah I know, he says it’s too noisy with the TV on or it was an important business phone call. If it’s only recently the TV volume has been an issue then he’s talking to someone he doesn’t want you to know about. Are his phone calls short? As in long enough to just say he can’t talk because you’re around and he has to call her back?

• He’s getting text messages at non-business hour times.

If he’s getting text messages right before bed that he quickly deletes, that’s not just a sign. That’s a firm kick in the butt that your partner is cheating. Ask yourself who the hell would be texting from his office. Or if he tells you it’s just one of his buddies ask why all of a sudden his friends feel the need to say goodnight. Seems suspicious to me.

• He changed the phone bill to paperless that goes to his email.

If he all of sudden changes the phone bill from coming in the mail where you both could see it to getting it sent to his email where only he can see it then he’s probably hiding something.

• He gets really offensive when you ask him harmless questions.

Do you call him and innocently ask him where he is, just like you always have, and all of sudden he’s defensive and wants to know why you are checking on him. He might be getting intentionally angry with you to make you feel guilty for asking so as to deter you from asking him again. If you don’t ask him incriminating questions he won’t have to go through the trouble of making up excuses for why he’s not with you.

• His phone is attached to his hip at all times, even when you’re just at the house.

If so he might be hiding something. If he’s got a death grip on that thing like his life depends on it there’s probably something in there he doesn’t want you to see.

• His interests or tastes in things have changed.

Are there things that you used to enjoy together that he now criticizes? Has his taste in music or food changed? He used to love Mexican food, now he thinks it’s greasy and unhealthy and won’t touch it. Has he picked up new interests or hobbies that don’t involve you? It’s not uncommon to acquire the same tastes as someone you are spending a lot of time. If you still love Mexican food then someone else has changed his mind.

Ok, so maybe that’s an exaggeration.  In all honesty, I could spend every waking hour of my day blogging about relationships and still not teach you everything there is to know about them. Frankly, I can’t do that. Partly because I just don’t have the time to dedicate to doing so and partly because I don’t know everything there is to know about dating and relationships. Does anyone? Hell no, and don’t let them tell you otherwise. So all you Dr. Phillers out there, stuff a sock in it! What works for one relationship isn’t necessarily going to work for the next.

What I can offer you though, is unbiased advice from my experiences, my research and my fellow readers. Consider this site your Cliffs notes to creating long lasting and exciting relationships.